I was reading the Times this morning and ran across this article, “The Problem With ‘Fat Talk'”.
Is it really such a big deal if you tell everyone how fat you feel? After all, a simple “I’m so fat!” can result in a chorus of empathetic voices, saying, “Me, too!” or “You’re beautiful just the way you are!” And that will help you feel better, and help others feel better, too — right?
Body image is, of course, one of the topics of life. One of the problems with it, though, is that if I person feels too heavy, they also feel like they are to blame. The blame is the problem, where does it lie?
Most important, fat talk is not a harmless social-bonding ritual. According to an analysis of several studies that my colleagues and I published in 2012 in the Psychology of Women Quarterly, fat talk was linked with body shame, body dissatisfaction and eating-disordered behavior. Fat talk does not motivate women to make healthier choices or take care of their bodies; in fact, the feelings of shame it brings about tend to encourage the opposite.
We all feel like we are less than we could be, even the most successful people on the planet have a nagging suspicion that they aren’t worthy of their successes. Body image is like this, because if you have a negative image then you feel compelled to correct it, or you feel guilty that you can’t correct it. Most of the time you can’t correct it because you are being given the wrong advice on how that is done.
Through a comedy of scientific and governmental errors, we have been misled about where excess weight comes from and what to do about it. If you think eating fat makes you fat, you are wrong. I know where you got the idea, but, fat in your diet does not lead to fat on your behind. If you think that the only way to lose weight is to eat less calories than you burn, you would be wrong about that, too. You can’t keep eating like you are and work harder in the gym or at work and lose weight just as slowly as you gained it. While it is possible to lose weight by starving yourself for a few months, you can’t starve yourself forever, hunger is too strong a motivator. Someday you will begin eating what your body is demanding and then you will once again return to your former weight. You don’t lose weight by starving or working.
If you feel that you are overweight, you should not be ashamed, it’s not your fault, you have been misled. You have been given bad advice, and that bad advice is everywhere and constant. Even now government nutritional committees are giving the advice that you should eat less fat, but the reason has changed, “to reduce agriculture’s contribution to global climate change”. You won’t hear that reason, you will just here the same old advice to eat less fat. However, there are only three types of energy in your food, fat, protein, and carbohydrate. If you are to eat less meat and fat, you must eat more carbohydrate. You must eat more carbohydrate, it is a necessity of life that you put energy in your body, and if more of it is carbohydrate you will not lose weight.
Fat comes from carbohydrate. Now you know. Sugar is a carbohydrate. Flour is a carbohydrate. Rice is a carbohydrate. No matter how healthy the box of rice crackers claims to be, it might be gluten free, but it is still rice, it is still carbohydrate, it will still make you fat. Carbohydrate makes you fat, not calories. Just imagine eating beef steak for a month, and only beef steak, let’s say 2000 calories of just steak. Now imagine eating 200o calories a day of just chocolate ice cream. In our mental experiment will the 2000 calories have the same end effect on your body? You know they won’t. The ice cream will cause you to gain weight, and this has been known about sugary foods for hundreds of years. But there is nothing really special about sugar. It is a carbohydrate. In your body carbohydrate is treated the same way whether it is cake or bread.
Don’t be ashamed that you haven’t been able to lose weight, you were given bad advice. Those days are coming to an end, the truth is coming out, finally. But don’t be ashamed, don’t feel guilty. You aren’t heavy because you are lazy, you are heavy because of what you eat. You aren’t heavy because of how much you eat, you are heavy because of what you eat. You eat what you do, because you were told to avoid eating fat, which left you no alternative but to eat carbohydrate. Carbs have made you heavy.
Love yourself, treat yourself right, eat less sweets or carbs and regain your health. Respect yourself and don’t hate. You were led to believe that you were to blame and that just was not the truth.
Here is where I get my facts about what makes us fat, and what we can do about it.